When I was new to business I was too scared and too proud to
ask for help. I was under the impression that if I am working for myself, it
essentially meant I had to do everything on my own. I always shied away from it
- Fear of coming out as too weak
- Fear of over-stepping a friendship or business relationship
- Fear of appearing too needy
- Fear of revealing my struggle
- Fear of having people realize that I don’t have it all
together after all
- Fear of not knowing how to
ask for help.
There are so many big and small parts that go in making a
business successful. And the reality is that no one can master all aspects of
the business. I always thought that asking for help meant paying the person in return, in other words hiring someone. So periodically, I hired people and delegated some work to them but this approach didn’t really work well.
I not only ended up spending way more on
some services I hired people for (ex: designing a website) then my ROI but also ended up taking
wrong decisions because there was no one to guide me or take a second
professional look at my products, services or offerings.
By not asking for help, I was not only taking all the burden that was easily shareable but also depriving those who’d love to assist me of the opportunity to do so. Margie Warrell in her book Brave says that, “the truth is that we all have gifts to share – time, talent, connections, insights, experience, skills, resources, hospitality. And most people love to share them!” and that there is always a possibility to trade some of your skills to help the other person in return.
Asking for help is a very humbling act and it’s not making me poorer or weaker. Infact, asking for help is allowing me and the other person grow richer and more abundant every single day.